...what's the longest you can stay with someone without getting bored, having enough of them, what's the longest you can live with them, be attached to them?
Any lasting relationship is so much more than just love, adoration, intrigue.. what will happen after you've already known them, when you know the source of their intrigue, when you know how they think! That's why I say relationships, lasting ones atleast, are made of much more than these things [..they're very important, help the sailing through: jokes, fun times, awesome moments it could get boring!? ..but how solid are they, without the storms, would you ever know?].
One of the more things I'm referring to is 'Commitment', like how you're committed to your job so you live with it dispite sometimes it being so bad, because of that contract, those terms, your need to pay your rent, maybe take your kids to school ..you live with it. That sort of defines commitment but maybe it lies more on obligation..
Commitment is when you decide to stick on a certain side not because you're obliged, you choose to do it for a deeper reason, what sometimes some of us call love, a sometimes unknown factor that keeps us by our friends side sometimes despite it being so tough, maybe unbearable for some ..when you make a choice that because of the awesome 'goods' [good times] you will stick around even for the bad, despite how sad. It is more than a contract, you are bond [or have bond yourself by your loyalty, because of respect, past experience, only positive things though #myoppinion.. never blackmail, or your dependence on them, how you can't do without them!] by how much you cherish them.. if it's a marriage never because of the certificate, or just the kids, because after all that can be canceled by divorce, you can always split the kids [heheh.. not funny! True though :'( ].
You stay committed because of how much you value them, what you had makes you hold on, because as long as it was real and it is still them then nothing has really changed but the worlds pushes and pulls which will always be there, may forever be there [sometimes sad] :'(.. so commitment makes you hold on like you don't care, because if you do, when you overcome the world you will make even better times together, better future memories. Commitment helps you hold on when the world has eclipsed your love, when it has made the jokes no longer seem funny [they just sound like annoying sarcasm :/ ] ..it helps you keep on fighting, helps you survive to better times.
NB: Commitment is your choice, it should never be based on blackmail, or depend, on someone, the fact that you're too far in to swim back, that you're in the deep end. If you're to be committed, do it for the right reasons, for something or one you cherish.
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